Unfortunately, many of us will at some point have to spend some time waiting at a hospital with a critically ill or injured loved one. This doctor wrote an excellent piece filled with great advice. I’m honestly posting it here for myself as much as anyone else…if I ever need this advice myself, I want to be able to find it easily!
I was just interviewed for an article about the growing problem of being underinsured. Anyone on my website probably knows about it from personal experience but here’s the link.
My aunt was just visiting. She enjoys books with very dark themes and story lines. I explained that I have never liked anything especially scary but that during residency and became a total lightweight when it comes to reading. My sister now pre-reads everything for me to make sure NOTHING awful happens. I read a lot of books written for tweens.
My aunt wanted to know what happened that changed that.
A lot did, but I told two stories. One was a horrible accident in which a minivan full of kids and parents was smashed up pretty badly. No one was wearing a seat belt or sitting in a car seat. We were all called to the ER to help. It was awful.
The other was a woman whose baby died at full term…she came into the hospital thinking she was having her baby and I had to tell her that her precious child was dead. I will never forget her gut wrenching sobs. Never.
Those were just two of many incidents that taught me just how precious life is.
When I became pregnant with my son, I would go up to labor and delivery every time I was on call and do a quick ultrasound, standing in the little alcove in the hall where the ultrasound machine was stored. I didn’t care that it was a little ridiculous and someone might see me standing there with my scrub top hoisted above my pregnant belly. I wanted to see that my child was still alive. I would stand there as long as I could, just gazing at that tiny heartbeat, the kicking legs and waving arms. Alive.
After he was born, my greatest fear was that either my child or I would die. I decided I could handle anything else. But not that.
When he was three, my son was diagnosed with multiple special needs, some conditions he might or might not outgrow and some he’ll have for the rest of his life. I was devastated. But my next thought was that at least he didn’t have something fatal.
Now my son is a charming, creative, energetic six year old and I also have a two year old daughter. I love them both more than I can ever express. And I will, no matter what happens to them or how successful they are in life. Which is why they are both fully vaccinated. The risks of vaccines are much lower than the risk of death from the diseases they prevent. And I’d rather have my children alive and in my arms.
I was honored to be a part of South Metro Health Alliance’s Heart of Hope fundraiser this year. I was given the opportunity to encourage all the other attendees to consider addressing medical needs as part of their mission, whether directly or through referrals.
I was also honored with one of their humanitarian awards. I am so grateful to the wonderful people at The Well, especially Audrey, my right hand.
Here’s a great video about it: http://video214.com/play/I34018OkzpiXoUZ9OBG09Q/s/dark
It seems that everyone is on a diet or feels they should be…Atkins is fading away, gluten free is so common that I have gluten free variations of all my standard recipes for when we have company. South Beach is still around, Mediterranean is a pretty solid contender. Then there’s Plant Based diet, the Nourishing Traditions take on things, and so on and so on.
So when someone asks me for the BEST diet, what am I to say?
For your heart, the Mediterranean diet may be the best…but there is no single Mediterranean diet. So don’t get yourself in a knot trying to do it exactly right. Remember, there are real people living in the Mediterranean area eating these foods and some of them probably dislike olives as much as I do. Here’s a summary from the American Heart Association of the key points of the Mediterranean Diet.
The DASH diet is great for lowering blood pressure.
What I’ve seen work best for the majority of my patients, to help them lose weight, improve their blood sugars, and generally feel great is either a plant based diet or a paleo diet. My favorite book on on plant based diets is The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Plant Based Nutrition. If you can ignore the implication that you, the reader, are an idiot, please consider reading this book as a good introduction to the concept. I don’t have a favorite paleo resource yet so if you have one, please let me know.
Ultimately, what all these diets have in common is lots of fruits and veggies, not many processed foods, and reasonable portions. So do that with whatever you’re already eating and you’ll be on your way to a healthier diet.
Finally, a question I get quite often is: what do I do for my family? In our situation we have two very active small children who limit our time and a very tight budget. I would prefer to eat better than we do and better follow one of the diets above. Instead, we eat a variation on a “real food” diet. I like this woman’s blog on the topic a great deal.
At the same time, I recognize that for my patients and I, it is important to make concessions for our lives. Lisa, from 100 Days of Real Food, did a 100 day budget challenge in which she fed her family by the real food “rules” (a la Michael Pollan) on $125 a week, which she really struggled to live by. And making food by the rules is her current career! Our usual food budget is $80 a week. Clearly, we’re not going to be able to abide by the real food “rules” perfectly. At the same time, we can try to make sensible concessions. Buying our chickens from Costco instead of a local farmer is different than buying Chicken McNuggets. I still use sugar when baking because it’s much cheaper than honey…but I use recipes that call for very little sweetening such as whole wheat pumpkin oatmeal cookies rather than sugar cookies. We eat much less fruit than we’d like and more potatoes, but overall I know we’re feeding our family far better than we would if we ate a “standard American” diet.
Gardening can also be a difficult decision. A garden can provide a family with good wholesome food that is very inexpensive if done with finances in mind (you can also very easily blow my entire annual income on your garden if you wanted to). But it is definitely a lot of work (especially if you’re doing it cheap) and for families already struggling with multiple demands, it can be just one too many things to have to cope with. My husband and I go back and forth on whether or not to have a garden. So far, we’ve always decided to do it. This year I actually decided not to next year…but then we started harvesting two or three cucumbers every single day and my son boasted to a neighbor about how he can pick and eat his peas any time he wants and I discovered that I actually like beets (if from our garden and steamed) and, well, I guess we’re doing a garden again next year.
How do you make healthy food choices for your family? How do you make those choices affordable?
A lot of people can’t imagine what a doctor spends her time doing. Sometimes I wonder too…why don’t I just see patients and go home? So today I tried to keep a list. I thought I’d let you know what my (fairly normal) Monday looked like. I know I left a bunch of random stuff out because I kept forgetting to list what I was doing, but at least you get the idea. This is all the behind-the-scenes work that is invisible to people but has to be done at every doctor’s office across the country.
- Saw patients (everyone knows about that).
- Fought with my internet…why oh why does it choose such inconvenient times to not work?
- Finished appointment notes, sent summaries to portals (except for one patient who always takes detailed notes)
- Got paged twice from pharmacies about prescriptions
- Hunted down an x-ray result I hadn’t received, called the radiologist to discuss the situation, and contacted the patient with next steps
- Looked up a study a patient mentioned, reviewed it, looked up medication conversion (I’ve learned that even pharmacists have to do this!) and replied to her questions
- Put in referrals to specialists for two different patients. This requires faxing medical records, demographics, and a letter from me. Oh, and I wrote those letters too.
- Called and scheduled my kids’ well child checks…I finally remembered to do this before 5pm!!!
- Called Medicaid to do a prior authorization (also a before 5pm task)
- Reviewed labs several patients had drawn late last week and the results came in over the weekend. One required additional testing, which necessitated contacting the patient to discuss, contacting the lab to add the labs (terrible hold music!), then receiving the paperwork from the lab to sign and return to them saying that yes, I really did say that I wanted the additional labs. One set of labs needed to be faxed to a specialist with a note from me. Of course all the results needed to get to their owners.
- Reviewed echocardiogram results on a patient, determined what additional testing was needed, contacted patient to discuss.
- Discussed doing additional labwork for a patient who HATES needles, recommended the Buzzy to help with that. (Here’s a great TED talk about the subject). Wrote order, faxed.
- Checked messages and found that I had received several phone calls from patients about various concerns, returned each call…imagine the amount of time I spend on the phone with you when I talk with you, then multiply that by 4-16 calls a day! (Typical is about 8). Sent emails with resources to a couple of the people I spoke with.
- Called people to schedule follow up appointments.
- Did messages on the portal. They ranged from a quick “great, see you then” to several detailed treatises on complicated questions.
- Called the lab again to order supplies.
- Called again because you have to call different numbers for different supplies.
- Tidied up office, cleaned instruments, watered plants.
- Thought about looking at beginning of the month finances but just couldn’t bear doing anything more today.
In a typical office, some of this could have been easily handled by staff (such as faxing). Some of it would have been a message to staff, “tell patient she needs an appointment to discuss” instead of replying to those questions, or “tell patient to work on lifestyle changes” instead of the long discussion. Some of it may have been handled by a staff member without my knowledge (finances, scheduling appointments, refilling prescriptions…which can present a problem when a particular number of refills was done to make sure a patient came back in). But many of these tasks are things doctors do every day and no one thinks about it. Reviewing labs. Reviewing imaging. Determining next steps. Calling radiologists. Contacting specialists. Replying to messages and phone calls. The stuff someone else would have done is fast and easy, almost a break from the work of doctoring. But I love the doctoring part…I am so happy this practice gives me the time to do it right!